Written by A.Romani
What is Wisdom?
Wisdom is the best and most incredible blessing God could ever bless us with. Being wise is when you have a deeper and better understanding of life. When you go through a lot, have enough knowledge, experience, it can make you judge properly as to what is true, right, and make the best, wisest decision.
When you are wise friends and family come to you to seek advice with peace of mind knowing that they can trust you. It is also where you see everything differently, make decisions that feel right, best for you, and for everyone else.
How can we be wise?To be wise you need to think about what you are going to say, do, how it will affect the person in front of you because what comes out of your mouth and what you do will have consequences so you always need to consider what you are going to say and do.
To be wise it is best to be positive because it will make us see the world with different taste and from a different perspective.
When you are positive it will bring out the best, wisest side of you because if you are going through a difficult time in your life, you will always have hope, certainty that God has a plan for you, that maybe what is happening to you is for the greater good. Such thoughts will help you to become wise gradually.
Some people are born or gifted with wisdom, and some people have wisdom hidden deep down that needs to see the light and shine. To explore, and find the wise side we need to progress further in life and have more experience. When we go through painful, miserable times, we realise that we are wiser by being positive and look at our difficult times from different angles. Although some people think they don’t think they have wisdom inside them but with faith in God, a small pinch of faith in ourselves, and being positive we will find ourselves being wiser without realising.
Being wise is incredible because when people sit with you and you enrich their minds with hope, wisdom, and positivity you will make them mentally comfortable, assured and hope will be reborn inside them again. They will trust what you are saying even more knowing that what you are saying is accurate. They will then always seek advice from you as you will inspire them, bring out the best in them, they will see life differently and they will inspire others too. To be wise you don’t have to be old or elderly.
To be wiser you need to be considerate of everyone around you, never judge anyone, and always give them excuses because you don’t know what’s going on in their life or what they are going through, only God knows what’s going on in their life, not us.
What does the bible say about wisdom?
“For wisdom is better than rubies, and all the things one may desire cannot be compared with her” Proverbs 8:11.
Wisdom is priceless; it cannot be bought with a price, no treasure in the world can replace it. Nothing could beat it or be compared to it. If you have wisdom then you are gifted and with wisdom, you could use it for a good cause by changing everyone around you as wisdom makes you go far in life. Wisdom shines like a beacon, a blazing light to see ahead during darkness. You will not only change everyone around you but you will change the world too.
Wisdom improves your life emotionally, physically, mentally, and financially. If you are wise you will learn from your experience and the experience of others, and sharing your wisdom with others will be an essential weapon for your survival and the survival of others around you too. Wisdom is like enriching nutrition that feeds the brain and the soul. Appreciate the wisdom that you have and hold on to it with your all power and never take it for granted. Wisdom is like a fruitful tree if you take good care of it by using it to do good to people around you and to the world. It will grow more by inspiring others to change the world too and together, we will make the world positive and a better place.
When King Solomon made sacrifices to God, God came to him in a dream and asked what he wanted, Solomon could have asked God for wealth, power, courage, strength, fame, or authority but he didn’t. He asked God for wisdom and an understanding heart so he could help, guide, and make good decisions for his nation. God was pleased and answered his prayer because of his selfless request. God gave him incredible wisdom along with long life, riches, and honour – thought this was under one condition which was that Solomon follow His commandments.
“God started loving Solomon right from his birth” (2 Sam 12:24-25). God loved Solomon very much because Solomon was selfless – he wanted to help and guide his people so God was impressed and pleased and He gave Solomon incredible things as a reward. This makes us learn that God is great and compassionate, He rewards us with far more amazing gifts than we could possibly ask for when we make decisions or ask for unselfish things or do selfless acts. King Solomon also taught us an important lesson that we will certainly never forget until the day we die. We learned that King Solomon was a great and spiritualy inspirational person. Solomon gained wisdom, an understanding heart, and was blessed with other amazing things by God because Solomon never took the credit for himself but he recognised that all the blessings were from God. He was a compassionate person with great humility, he appreciated his responsibilities, was selfless and put his nation first.
“Even a fool who keeps silent is considered wise, when he closes his lips, he is deemed intelligent” Proverbs 17:28.
It was once said that a lot of words brings trouble but lack of words is wisdom itself. If you remain silent, you will appear wise and if you don’t speak you will appear smart. Some situations in life force us to seal our lips because if we say something it could make the matter or situation worse. Normally, if someone said something that we didn’t like we will feel the need to say something so we push or strike back to stand up for ourselves but unfortunately after too late we discover the consequences because we don’t consider first what could possibly happen if we said certain words or actions. Sadly, we may realise too late that the damage has been done and it may be too late to take it back. If we get into an argument with a friend or a family member it is best to keep our mouths shut instead of allowing our mouth to be like an open tomb, be reckless, say something hurtful, unforgivable and trust me it is so much better to absorb a lot of insults and think carefully about what will happen if we spoke and said something specific because things could escalate and go south and by then it will be too late to be sorry.
Wise people do the right thing by not making a sound or say anything because they know that if they said something someone could get upset and make things worse than they already are which is why they are considered wise because in complicated moments they stay silent and monitor the situation from a distance, they give it a thought and see if they should say something because that’s the best and smartest thing to do.
“When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom” Proverbs 11:2
When you have pride it makes you not considerate of everyone around you, you start to not care about what you say, what you do, what people think, or if you upset anyone, and you will reach a point where you won’t care about the consequences of what you say and do. You see when you have pride you could be grumpy, rude, repulsive, and have an insensitive attitude where it could reach a level where it is unbearable and you could lose respect from everyone around you. Pride will cost you everything, everyone you love, and most importantly yourself. It will even reach a point where even if you say sorry apologising will be meaningless and pointless. Pride will blind you; you will have an ego that will cover your eyes, it will make you think that you own the world, that you are better than everyone, and you will not have the heart to forgive people and justify their actions because you think that no one is worth forgiving. If you can’t forgive anyone then unfortunately there will be a chance that you will end up all alone with no friends, you will push everyone around you away and no one will be close by your side.
When you are humble you will be wiser, loved, respected by everyone, they will cherish, appreciate you and they will not want to lose you. Anyone you meet will be touched by your humility, incredibly heart-warming attitude, charisma, invaluable friendship, priceless advice, and wisdom. You will be remembered and not forgotten by many people. You will change and touch everyone that will get to know you. Wisdom and humility are truly remarkable.
“Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing” Proverbs 12:18
Being reckless could create lots of misunderstanding and problems as being reckless is when you don’t think before you speak; it is where your tongue races before your consciousness. In other words, you speak before you think.
For example, if you are upset or angry, consider and think very carefully what you will say and do because it will define who you really are and your true nature or self. What comes out of your mouth and your actions will decide the fate of your relationships with people around you, even your loved ones. Like the quote in the bible says “Reckless words pierce like a sword” like it said impulsive words that are said before you give any thought to it could hurt people’s feelings just like a sword gutting them and you could end up saying unforgivable things. Hurtful words are not just any words or words that are not valuable – it causes lifetime bruises, deep hurtful words are words that can’t be forgotten and they stay with us until the day we die. Before you do or say anything give it a thought and think twice because in complicated moments or heated arguments if you are being impulsive, you will add fuel to the fire without realising.
Wise words are like a medicine or a cure that heals and cools down wounds even deep ones, wise words always make arguments or misunderstandings cool down instead of escalating them, wisdom always save people from falling into trouble and it prevents any misunderstanding. Wisdom can actually save any kind of relationship.
“Sensible people control their temper they earn respect by overlooking wrong” Proverbs 19:11
Wise people always hold their tongue and they calm themselves because they know that if they get angry it will make the matter worse, a flood of words will come out, and a volcano of rage and anger will erupt. This is why it is essential to control yourself and your temper when you are furious because really the only person that will lose everything and come out of the situation damaged is you. Sensible people always hold their temper no matter the cost – they think rationally and think before they act. If they said something that upsets everybody, they sit with themselves and think about what they have done, they always take responsibility, ownership, accept their mistake, and apologise. They do this rather than creating excuses and justification as to what they said because they will appear as if they don’t want to admit their mistakes. That is certainly how you earn respect from everyone around you.
“Know also the wisdom is sweet to your soul if you find it, there a future for you, and your hope will not be cut off” Proverbs 24:14
Wisdom is amazing. If you have wisdom, you will live long, prosper and have a bright future and relationships with people around you will last and people will stick around longer.
It will guide you through the darkest and toughest times, it will help you deal with all kinds of people, it will help you through unexpected and difficult situations and it will even help you in life itself in general.
Wisdom will guide you through your journey on earth, it will be like your friend, it will control your tongue and your actions and change it for the better.
“If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him” James 1:5
If you don’t have wisdom and wish to have it ask god because He will bless you with it out of nowhere where you don’t even expect it. God will bless you with great wisdom and you will realise you didn’t know you needed wisdom because God knows what you need, what you desire, He knows what is inside us, He knows what we need before we even ask. God bless us with things that we didn’t know we needed because He knows what is best , what is right, what is wrong and what is suitable for us. God always looks out for us and He is always there for us when we need Him at all times.
Our lord’s wisdom cannot be beaten, nothing can compete with His wisdom. It is true we can find wisdom when we go far in life but it can take longer to find it in ourselves, we don’t know when or what situation or moment in life where we discover that we had wisdom in us but at the end of the day it will be worth the patience and the wait but remember, trust God and have faith that he will give it to you.
” A fool gives full vent to his anger but a wise man keeps himself under control” Proverbs 29:11
Sometimes on some occasions we fall as victims of our own weakness, for example in life we face misunderstandings in random situations that we normally don’t expect. Sometimes we would lash out and get angry at someone without first waiting and listening to what he/she is trying to say.
When people say something, we could misunderstand or get confused about what they are trying to say or what they mean, in that case rather than asking what they mean we could think that what they said was an insult so then we act impulsively and get angry and misjudge them without hearing them out first. Unfortunately, this sometimes could cost us to lose someone important or special or loved ones or even our friends because this makes us appear as though we are looking for a fight or trouble or a reason to be upset. Not just that, but we will look as if we are getting upset for no reason from very little or pointless things. The person in front of us will then think that we are intending to lose them by making a big deal out of everything and causing unnecessary drama.
To be wise, the best thing to do is to keep ourselves under control. For example, if someone said something we did not understand or did not follow what they meant we should first ask or talk to them to understand their true intentions and what they meant because small talk or chat always helps solve any problem because it keeps everyone on the same page and everyone take everything off their chest and it clears the air and any big misunderstandings.
Anger causes trouble, it will make the situation escalate faster and make it drastically worse and more complicated so we should never be reckless.
Misjudging people is painful and unfair, it hurts their feelings and it could cause relationships to collide because people around you will be driven to a point where enough is enough.
Like the quote said the fool cannot control his anger and his tongue betrays him but the wise ensure that his temper remains under control.
It is okay if we misjudge or get angry without hearing the story first, more importantly that we learn from it and we never repeat it again because we all suffer from our weaknesses but we learn as we explore our life and get shoved into situations that are new to us and that we do not expect but the harder the lessons we learn the better chance we likely not to repeat them ever again.
What did William Shakespeare say about wisdom?
Shakespeare once said, “the fool doth think he is a wise man knows himself to be a fool”. If you tell yourself, you are not wise it is not true because in fact, you are wise and you don’t know it.
Being wiser will make you make the best decision that is suitable, right, it will make you be assured, have certainty that your decision what is best for you and everyone around you.
What is an example of being wise?
Let’s look at an example here. Luke was a college student and an adult who never had tragedies in his life and he had a good life. He failed his first business exam of the year. Luke thinks his world is colliding, no job will accept him, and that he might not graduate or get past the year. Since Luke didn’t have any tragic or difficult events in his life, he thinks it is the end of the world and it is the worst thing that ever happened to him.
Now let us have a look at Mike. He lost his parents at a young age, he has been moving from foster home to foster home early in his life. Mike is in the same class as Luke. Mike failed the exam too just like most of the class, then when Mike asked his teacher, he said that the grades could be curved and everyone could be okay. Mike arranged an appointment with his teacher to go through where he went wrong so he can make sure he never repeats his mistakes. Mike had positivity and hope unlike Luke because Mike knew that it is a setback for him but he pushed himself so he ensures that his mistakes are not repeated twice.
What can we take away from this?
Being wise is not about age, we become wiser from experience and knowledge. The trauma that we are going through and the damage that we take can assist us. We become wiser when we make mistakes, learn from them and sometimes, we learn them in a hard way but the harder the lesson we learn from the better we know, the more experienced we become and it will make us ensure that we never repeat the same mistakes in future.
When you go through temptations or a certain phase in your life always tell yourself that God is testing you, giving you this temptation because He loves you and wants you to learn from it. Always reflect on your mistakes, your actions, think about the consequences that they had and it will make you avoid doing them again. We are all humans; we all have weaknesses. It is not the end of the world if we make mistakes. We learn from them that is why they exist, so we can learn from them, become better so it reminds us and remember its consequences if we do it again.
Remember with positivity, knowledge, and experience the wiser and the better we will together become.
I have gone through a lot in my life but I have realised that when God is with me my life is so much better. I have found out that I see life and the tragedy or events that I went through in a different way; in fact I saw them in a positive way. For example, if I go through something tough I believe that God is testing me because He loves me. If I go through something very tough and I’m patient and thank him every day I have faith He will reward me for my patience and for being thankful. I have come to a truthful conclusion that I do gain wisdom when I progress or go far in life or from difficult events but most importantly, God is the one that makes wisdom born inside me by making me go through difficult events to make me stronger and see them in different perspectives and that’s how I can appear wise in my own eyes and in the eyes of people. So then they will know that I don’t just have wisdom but I have wisdom with God’s power and they can know how it feels like and how better it is when God is in my life and in theirs too.